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Archive for December, 2008



22
Dec

The real meaning of Christmas

You would think in the week before Christmas, I’d have heaps to write about. But, whether it’s due to general exhaustion as the year comes to a close, or all the other things going on forming a nasty Writer’s Block, I’m really struggling to find something worthy of writing about in the week before Christmas.

I wonder, though, if those obstructions that are stopping me from being uber-creative are actually one of the critical problems we’re facing with regards to this very important feast in our calendar. Looking around, there seem to be plenty of stories worrying about people not spending enough at the shops and thereby worsening the GFC (Global Financial Crisis), but far fewer stories musing on the real meaning of Christmas.

And even the ones I do find on “the real meaning of Christmas” talk about giving, and joy, and presents, and visiting family. This really gets at me because that’s not what Christmas is about. Those are activities and things we use to celebrate Christmas, but they’re not what Christmas is about. It’s not rocket science people. :) Christmas is the feast commemorating the birth of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Saviour, some 2,000 years ago. One would think that any kid anywhere (in the “Western world” anyway) would know that.

But reading through a few blogs and “reputable” news sites, I see lots of reference to Santa and Xmas, and only passing mention of Christ. Many seem to be eschewing the whole spend-a-rific commercialisation of Christmas, which is fine and good. While we’re on this sub-topic, also good on World Vision and Caritas for coming up with laudable alternatives to socks and Xbox games for gift ideas! :) Let us not detract from their fine work, and from the idea of removing the commercial aspect of Christmas.

But, said blogs and sites never seem to be saying “get ye to church!” Even within my friends and family there are plenty of examples of where church won’t feature, or will take a backseat position to planning other aspects of the day. And that, my friends, really is missing the real meaning of Christmas!

I don’t want this blog post to be a downer in the week before Christmas, lest I become the Being Frank grinch! ;) I simply want to point out that it is increasingly important that we not only forcably place Christ back at the centre of this holiday ourselves, but that we witness to those around us that we are doing so. I’ve spoken about this public celebration of faith before – usually it comes up around Ash Wednesday – when, I feel, as Christians we need to pass on whatever reward we would receive in Heaven for quietly celebrating our Faith privately (see Matthew 6:5) and get out there and shout from the rooftops that Christ is born and that’s the reason for all the pressies!

That’s all. :)

(By the way, I wish to all of our Being Frank readers (that includes you, if you’re still reading ;) ) and their families a happy and holy Christmas.)

21
Dec

It started with a thought…

Today I thought I would comment on something awesome which was organised by young Catholics in Auckland this week. An largely Iraqi Catholic youth group on Auckland’s North Shore organised a Christmas play to raise money for orphans in Iraq.

The idea started eight years ago with Christmas carols – and the group were happy they raised $600 for others at Christmas that first year. For the last three years the small group of Christmas carolers has grown to be a play, including an auction, Santa and a huge community gathering, which this year raised $20,000 for orphans in Iraq.

The planning and rehearsing, while a lot of work, brought together heaps of people who had lots of fun and met new people doing something for God and others – and the audience had heaps of fun watching them do it! I love things which make you feel Christmasy, and little kids always do at Christmas :-)

The play followed the lives of normal families, their frustrations, and their struggles with their faith – entitled My Bigger Fatter Iraqi Christmas (last year’s was called My Big Fat Iraqi Christmas). It’s always nice to see that other people have disfunctional families too…!

So.. if a group of Catholic young people can do that, maybe we should all think about ways we can reach out to others – my flatmates went to visit elderly people the other night (they work in hospitals so already know lots of elderly people who don’t have family around) and the people they visit get so excited and they make really their weeks by going to visit them. I also know St Benedicts Parish in Newton needs more volunteers to escort elderly people to mass from Auckland hospital on Christmas morning – something which that parish traditionally does.

I think i am definitely guilty of “I should do it, but never actually get around to it” syndrome – so maybe more of us should work on curing ourselves of that this Christmas and make sure we think about others in our community!!

Have a great Christmas everyone!! xoxox

20
Dec

The Parents of Christmas

My first Christmas as a confirmed Catholic. While it does not feel like Christmas is only 5 days away at all, as the city I grew up in has over 20cm of snow at the moment, it certainly has taken on a new dimension for me this year. The true meaning of Christmas is expressed no where more fully than the Church. While much of society is seemingly caught up in the gulls of this consumerised holiday, the Church consistently draws us back to the original reason of celebration. It also draws us closer our Mother, Mary, the Mother of Christmas, and her husband St. Joseph.

Growing up as a Protestant, we somehow glossed over each time our Blessed Mother’s name was mentioned in the story of Christmas. It was almost as if she was an unwitting participant in the birth of our Lord, a secondary character in God’s plan for salvation. This year I have come to understand more fully Mary’s pure and ‘most perfect example for every life that is dedicated to God,’ and her true place in this incredible miracle celebrated on Christmas. Mary serves as our most perfect example of humility and acceptance of God’s will for us, as she proclaimed, “Be it done unto me according to your word,” when the angel Gabriel proclaimed she would give birth to the Saviour of the world. The entire season of advent is one of preparation for our Lord. We can find no more perfect preparation than in Mary. Can you imagine the excitement and anticipation she must have been experiencing during this season? Her humble heart was in constant prayer in preparation for His birth. Even when the shepherds came and proclaimed him as the Saviour, she ‘kept all these things, pondering them in her heart.’ What wonderful devotion in prayer to our Lord. Through all the excitement, she is constantly in prayer, with joy and thanksgiving for what is occurring through and around her.

Then, imagine St. Joseph, whose life had been turned upside down, just as Mary’s, but in his fullness of love, accepted the will of the Father and his responsibility to raise Jesus. How much he must have loved Mary!

‘He must have loved her so much and with such generosity of heart that, when he learned of her desire to preserve the consecration she had made to God, he agreed to marry her. He would rather renounce having children than live apart from the woman he loved’ (Quoted from ‘In Conversation with God’, Francis Fernandez).

Joseph is to be the one who teaches our Lord to be a man, his trade in life, and how marvelous a job he did! He is a perfect example of fatherhood to all men.

What a special place these two have in the story of salvation. What a special place they should have in our hearts and prayer! Their incredible devotion to each other, to Jesus, and to all those around them is something to contemplate in this season of preparation. No story of Christmas is complete without stopping to consider the parents of our Lord, and their incredible place in His birth.

Jesus, Mary, and Joseph most kind,
Bless us now and in death’s agony.

19
Dec

“Are you saying ‘boo’ or ‘Boo-urns’?”

Well only 6 days to Christmas now and the countdown is well and truly on. Oh not only the countdown to Christmas, but also the countdown to days left at work. 2 days to go (not counting today).

But Christmas really just isn’t about the presents, or the time off, or the family reunions. All of those things are important, but none more so than the real reason we celebrate Christmas. And as Catholics, I find we are quite adept and losing sight of things, or taking things for granted.

One thing I’ve taken for granted is Catholic movie reviews. How have I not discovered these before? I recently found a link on the NZ Catholic website to two Catholic sites, one in Australia and one in the US, that do movie reviews. The Australia review reads more like a normal review would, but without the stinging criticism. So instead of maybe saying ‘Keanu Reeves acts like a plank’, they would paint him in a more positive light, such as ‘Keanu Reeves was convincing in his portrayal of a plank’.

The American one however is more useful in its description of the movies. It does this by giving the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops classification for the movie, which ranges from ‘general patronage’ to ‘morally offensive’. Although the rating ‘limited’ seems to be the worst one you can get. And it also picks out points in the movie that could be troubling from a Catholic viewpoint.

Very useful. If I had known this before, I could have turned down the opportunity to watch ’27 Dresses’ by saying ‘sorry, if offends my Catholic moral compass as the movie contains crude language, crass expressions, a superfluous bathroom scene, an implied nonmarital sexual encounter, and mild sexual banter and innuendo. Even ‘Mamma Mia’ gets a “The film contains an overall freewheeling morality, light sexual references and innuendo, casual treatment of marriage, divorce and nonmarital relations, some vulgar gestures, brief rear-nudity sight gag, an anti-Catholic remark and a few crass words.”

So there you go. My Christmas present to you. Plausible reasons for refusing to go to terrible movies.

18
Dec

The Importance of Friendship

I have been reflecting on the importance of friendship in helping awaken us to a truly ethical life. We all know impressively good people from different walks of life, some Christian some not, some religious and some not – people who are capable of great humility, generosity, honesty, courage, self-control, compassion, understanding, loyalty etc, …people who are really capable of great friendships, and of going very far in love for someone else; in fact JRR Tolkien understood this, and wrote beautifully in this regard.

What is it about the experience of friendship that stimulates us so much; and switches us on to the need to be reliable, trustworthy, and virtuous – for someone else? It seems really fundamental to discovering another person at a deep personal level, and not just as part of working with someone for a common goal, or getting on well with someone.

Earlier this year I heard some marvellous talks on friendship, and how it changes human life, and awakens us to the moral life, from a visiting priest: Fr Dominique Faure from the Community of St John,(http://www.stjean.com/EN/Jeu_accueil.php).

And for this post, I would like to alert you to the presence of these talks now on you-tube. They are quite brilliant, incredibly stimulating, and well worth taking the time to watch – if you are interested in understanding human happiness and human ethics. I would say that every Being-franker would enjoy watching these…considering the many discussions/debates that we have had.

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TALK 1:
PART1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frbsV0e96jU
PART2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8z3mtS3EFOs
PART3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrcnKzpqA_0
PART4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKkJkN2Sfh8
PART5: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KWm3OoARb90
PART6: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wh-XsU8GKP4

TALK 2:
PART1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o7sG0tbcpY
PART2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWqu3LiEaB8
PART3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bc3bN0oIF8M
PART4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxMXYWF6wA0
PART5: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtctoXNQmFE
PART6: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pM3ARda5C6Q

TALK 3:
PART1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iPUSDsoNTM
PART2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V95zu_faNCg
PART3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FpsgPG3wrw
PART4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6oSJ9vZFIgE
PART5: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-ZiK7fPCCQ
PART6: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRppaScbQyY

17
Dec

The Temptations of Jesus

To continue on the theme of temptations (not really intentional, but hey, makes me sound organised…)

I’ve been reading Benedict XVI’s book ‘Jesus of Nazareth’, a work that he wrote both as cardinal and after his election as Pope. As one would expect, he’s a cracking good read, even more so when he’s writing about Jesus…haha

One of the chapters explores the three temptations that Jesus faced and I thought I’d give a synopsis of his exploration of one of those…

‘If you are the Son of God, command these stones to become loaves of bread.’ Now, I don’t know about you but if I hadn’t eaten for 40 days and 40 nights and I knew I was capable of turning stones to bread, I’d have a hard time not giving in!! However, the devil here is challenging Jesus… ‘So you think you’re something special, yah? Well prove it, yah?’

We may think that we don’t ever do this, and maybe not in such an overt way, but I’m sure we all experience moments where our life situation or that of the world leads us to resent Christ for not ‘proving’ his existence more. The Holy Father writes the following as an example of how we can be prone to viewing Christ if we don’t look with eyes of faith…”If you, Christ, are really the Son of God, and not just another one of the enlightened individuals who keeps appearing in the course of history, then you’ll just have to prove it more clearly than you are doing now. And if the Church is really supposed to be yours, you’ll have to make that much more obvious than it is at present.”

The Holy Father identifies the way in which Christ was “reproached for having failed to prove himself sufficiently,” and this happens over and over again throughout the Gospels. How often does the world, and do we, demand of God less ambiguity? How much do we seek the consolation of God as opposed to the God of consolation?

Of course we can still ask why God did not reveal himself more or make his presence in the world more irresistible, but we cannot truly be resentful to God for this – even if sometimes we might struggle in our faith. Faith is not faith because we can prove it! (Albeit, we know there is of course much merit in studying it, in seeking understanding…wait, I think that’s called theology!).

15
Dec

The gift that keeps on taking

I couldn’t believe this when I first heard it. But I’ve now seen the story referred to on the NZ Catholic’s website, so I have to take it a bit more seriously.

Apparently, Planned Parenthood America is selling gift vouchers this Christmas.

… (give that a second to sink in).

That’s right – America’s #1 provider of abortions (what a claim to fame that is!) has decided to let people give the “gift of health” this Christmas, by selling gift vouchers in $25 denominations that can be redeemed for any of their services.

Now, in the interests of trying to hold a moderate position, I trawled through the ‘net to see what the counter position was. It’s not very strong.

From Indy.com

“Birth control is the best way to avoid unintended pregnancy. Avoiding unintended pregnancy is the best way to reduce abortion” rates, [Betty Cockrum, president and chief executive of Planned Parenthood of Indiana] said. She added that her organization performs abortions on only about 5,000 of the 92,000 patients it sees annually.

The vouchers could be applied to the cost of an abortion. “I certainly don’t think anyone would consider giving it for that purpose,” spokeswoman Kate Shepherd said.

Hmmm…that’s the best way to avoid unintended pregnancy? Perhaps Ms.Cockrum should take a look at my post from last week? ;)

From The Washington Times

Ms. Cockrum added that the vast majority of services provided by Planned Parenthood are for basic health care, such as Pap tests, which cost $58 at the group’s centers.

“Even a gift certificate for $25 goes a long way toward what’s potentially a life-saving but certainly just essential, basic health care for a loved one,” she said.

The program has been endorsed by Dr. Judy Monroe, Indiana health commissioner, who called it a “really a meaningful gift.”

See, I don’t know about you, but the first thought that comes into my head when someone says “Planned Parenthood” is not “pap smear” or “breast exam”.

I have to say that this seems to be a moderately crazy idea! But all the commentary I’ve already read has pretty much focused on the moral arguments against this idea – of which there are plenty. So, as I’m all moderate and such, I’d like to point out – purely from a marketing point of view – how crazy this idea is.

See, who do they honestly think their customers are here? What kind of person is going to buy a gift certificate from Planned Parenthood and actually give it to someone for anything outside of comic purposes?!? What is that recipient supposed to think? “Do they think I’m pregnant?” “What are they trying to say?” “Where’s the exchange card?” :)

Seriously, at best this is an unbelieveably patronising, insulting gesture that they are trying to wrap up in a disgustingly false “we care for women” wrapper. From that Washington Post article:

“Our patients are principally low-income women, and so, needless to say, those patients are more challenged now than ever,” Ms. Cockrum said. “We find that when women are [financially] strapped, they’re more worried about putting food on the table and gas in their car, and their health care is often put by the wayside.”

I think I’m going to be sick. This is the answer to that problem?

I think it’s more than ironic that such an organisation is using a festival celebrating a difficult, inconvenient, no doubt stressful, mentally and physically challenging birth, to peddle their wares to take this “burden” away from women.