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04
Sep

No one who prays is ever alone…

Well, what a morning it has been in Christchurch. A 7.4 magnitude earthquake struck about 4.30am and there has been a huge amount of damage to buildings and roads. Thank God only a few people have been hurt.

I bet that a lot of people who woke up with the tremors and shakes felt scared and alone. My wife and my first reaction was to get our baby and huddle in bed to wait out the quake. I hope that families were able to stay together and give each other comfort and care.

The earthquake made me think of two things an relation to loneliness and friendship…

Last night I was at my cousin’s confirmation (congratulations to him and all the other candidates!!) which made me think the earthquake was an outpouring of the spirit! Bishop Barry talked about how it is essential to pray and establish a solid friendship with Jesus. In this way, we will never be alone.

It also made me think of a great blog I read the other day by the Archbishop of New York.

I was on the Jersey Shore, at the Villa Saint Joseph, in company with priests. At supper I had quietly admired one of them, now retired, and listened as he joined in swapping stories about past assignments and colorful incidents from priestly life. It was clear to me that this particular priest had worked hard for over fifty-five years –poor parishes, teaching, caring for the sick. He was an example of a senior priest who had “been in the trenches” and served Jesus and His Church faithfully.

Later that evening I sat alone up on the second-floor porch and enjoyed the sea-breeze. I also smiled as I watched the married couples and families walk along the boardwalk, and had to admit to myself that it sure would be nice to have a wife, kids, or grandkids here with me. Not that I was regretting my priestly celibacy, mind you, because I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I guess I was just imagining “what-if …”

And then I saw the old priest below me on the front porch. He, too, was all alone. He, too, was looking at the couples and families walking-by. And I felt sorry for him. This priest, who had given it his all as a generous, committed priest, there all-by-himself in a rocker on the front porch.

Down I went. Yet, as I approached, I saw his lips moving, as if he were in conversation with a friend; his eyes were closed, although he was not asleep, because the rocker was moving; he hardly looked lonely at all, because there was a smile there …

Then I saw the rosary in his hand, and the breviary (the book of daily readings and prayers, mostly from the Bible, which we priests promise to pray daily) open on his lap … and I realized he was enjoying the best company of all.

I went back upstairs and finished my cigar.

And recalled what Pope Benedict XVI had observed earlier in the summer when he had begun his own vacation, “No one who prays is ever alone.”

Both bishops have an excellent point.

Saints Agatha, Emidius, Francis Borgia and Gregory Thaumaturgus, patron saints of earthquakes, pray for us!

28
Aug

The anniversary of the birth of an inspirational woman

Mother Teresa, I would say, would rank as one of the most inspirational people who have lived (particularly over the past century), not only for Catholics but for non-Catholics alike. She would be one of the most well known figures in recent decades, and yet the life she lived was very simple, but made an effect on the whole world. Even some family members I know, who would never speak positively of anything in regard to religion, would speak highly of Mother Teresa.

The 26th of August marked the 100th anniversary of her birth. I think its worth thinking of the life of Blessed Teresa of Calcutta and of her wisdom and the example she led in her life.

I won’t write lots about her life, as I could write for a long time, but you can read about her life here.

In short, she was an Albanian Roman Catholic nun who founded the Missionaries of Charity  in Kolkata (Calcutta), India in 1950. For over forty years she ministered to the poor, sick, orphaned, and dying, while guiding the Missionaries of Charity’s expansion, first throughout India and then in other countries.
By the 1970s she had become internationally famed as a humanitarian and advocate for the poor and helpless. She won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979 for her humanitarian work. Much of her work was fraught with difficulties. At times she had to resort to begging for food and supplies. She experienced doubt, loneliness and temptation. She died in 1997.

So much can be said about Mother Teresa and I fear that I don’t do her justice.

Some of my favourite quotes to think about from Mother Teresa:

  • “Spread love everywhere you go: First of all in your own house… let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness.”
  • “Where does love begin? In our homes. When does it begin? When we pray together. The family that prayers together stays together”
  • “I ask you one thing: Do not tire of giving, but do not give your leftovers. Give until it hurts, until you feel the pain.”
  • “How many things we own that we do not give away because we feel so attached to them. It is better to have less in order to give it all to Jesus.”
  • “Prayer is not asking. Prayer is putting oneself in the hands of God, at his disposition, and listening to his voice in the depths of our hearts.”
  • “Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching the people to love but to use any violence to get what they want. That is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion. It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish.”
  • “At the end of our lives, we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made or how many great things we have done. We will be judged by ‘I was hungry and you gave me to eat. I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless and you took me in.’

When we married, my wife gave me a medal that had been made to match hers. On the front is the Tau cross, the symbol of St Francis of Assisi whose feast we were married on. On the back is “For love to be real it must empty us of self”. This was a quote and ideal of Mother Teresa. To “give until it hurts, until you feel the pain”. It is something that in our lives (and especially in marriage as well) we need to be reminded of daily. Perhaps that is why she is so well known and respected amongst so many. Because she gave herself in a vocation of service. She really tried hard to be Jesus to so many. She really tried to make a difference even in the simplest way (being with the dying in their last moments, for example). And that simplest way made all the difference.

Mother Teresa is now beatified, and there is a cause for her canonisation.

I’ll finish off this post with a prayer to Blessed Teresa of Calcutta:

Blessed Teresa of Calcutta,
longing to love Jesus as He had never been loved before, you gave yourself entirely to Him, refusing Him nothing.
In union with the Immaculate Heart of Mary, you accepted His call to satiate His infinite thirst for love and souls and become a carrier of His love to the poorest of the poor.
With loving trust and total surrender you fulfilled His will, witnessing to the joy of belonging totally to Him. You became so intimately united to Jesus your crucified Spouse that He deigned to share with you the agony of His Heart as He hung upon the Cross.
Blessed Teresa, you promised to continuously bring the light of love to those on earth; pray for us that we also may long to satiate the burning thirst of Jesus by loving Him ardently, sharing in His sufferings joyfully, and serving Him wholeheartedly in our brothers and sisters, especially those most unloved and unwanted.
Amen.

21
Aug

The Ultimate Man-cation: where you can strip yourself and women of their dignity

I was listening to Australia’s Cradio the other day and on the Weekly Edition they were talking about the Lynx deodorant’s new “Lynx Lodge”, the place for the ultimate “man-cation”.

The lodge is for males only, and offers “kayaking, pool, golf, fishing, dirtbike riding and volleyball games, along with a spa and jetty”. But thats not all… Guests are also treated to on-the-spot back rubs on request, breakfast in bed and “sexy wake-up calls” from lodge staffers and a team of part-time models on hand to look after male visitors. Evening entertainment includes mud wrestling and games of Twister.

The whole idea promoted around Lynx is that if you wear the deodorant you will then be surrounded by hot girls. And I guess the Lodge tries to do just that. When asked what activities are available at the lodge, the woman on the promo video says “we’ve got everything from a jetty, to a hot tub filled with gorgeous girls”.

According to the Lynx Lodge website, this is all in an effort for men to get back to their “primal roots”.

How do they exactly get back to their primal roots at the lodge? Is it the way that all the staff are stereotypical beautiful women? The way men can expect on-the-spot back rubs on request, breakfast in bed and “sexy wake-up calls” from lodge staffers with a team of part-time models on hand to care for their whims. The site is full of sexually suggestive images of the staff doing different activities around the lodge.

If not getting back to their primal roots, the other reason to go to the Lynx Lodge is liberation (”a refuge”) from their partners and the chores of romantic walks, shopping and sharing their feelings. But don’t worry girls, your men are well looked after in the Lynx staff hands.

Lynx is owned by Unilever, which is the same company that also owns the brand Dove and its “Campaign for Real Beauty“.  Dove seeks “to raise self-esteem by encouraging girls and their role models to embrace their unique beauty” through mentoring programs and Love your Body days, trying to make a difference through acknowledging the beauty and natural diversity of all body shapes and sizes in order to prevent eating disorders

Does Unilever seek to bring down women’s self esteem and ideas of natural beauty through the Lynx ads so that they can then bring them up again through Dove?

If girls can do anything… why do they need to wait on men, being sexually suggestive and available, all so men can get back to their primal roots?

If girls can do anything… why are girls encouraged to have healthy self esteem and ideas of natural beauty, while also trying to compete and being surrounded by “Lynx girls”

For all the “harm” that the Catholic Church is apparently doing to women and the feminist cause, what Lynx and all the other brands, advertising and media in our culture today is doing is much worse and a much bigger threat to the future of our women and society. As the parent of girls, I am worried that girls are surrounded by these attitudes, images and contradictions from age zero, no matter how much we try to shelter them.

How do we change this? Perhaps a boycott of Lynx and Unilever is in order. But in today’s society this raises more questions when we live in a place where large companies own multiple brands and multiple contradictory messages. Unilever owns many of the common brands we would know today. What a complicated world we live in. Dove seeks to change the world and its expectations of beauty. Lynx seeks to satisfy men’s primal interests. Can a brand really make such a difference?

This is where messages like John Paul II”s Theology of the Body are really needed in society. But that is a whole other blog post…

14
Aug

St Max

The amazing life of  St Maximillian Kolbe is one I have admired for a few years now – pretty much from the moment I head his story. The patron saint of journalist, the pro-life movement, drug addicts and, as JP2 declared, the difficult 20th Century, his intercession is much needed today.

He composed this prayer of consecration to Or Lady…

O Immaculata, Queen of Heaven and earth, refuge of sinners and our most loving Mother, God has willed to entrust the entire order of mercy to you. I, (name), a repentant sinner, cast myself at your feet, humbly imploring you to take me with all that I am and have, wholly to yourself as your possession and property. Please make of me, of all my powers of soul and body, of my whole life, death and eternity, whatever most pleases you.
If it pleases you, use all that I am and have without reserve, wholly to accomplish what was said of you: “She will crush your head,” and “You alone have destroyed all heresies in the whole world.” Let me be a fit instrument in your immaculate and merciful hands for introducing and increasing your glory to the maximum in all the many strayed and indifferent souls, and thus help extend as far as possible the blessed kingdom of the most Sacred Heart of Jesus. For wherever you enter you obtain the grace of conversion and growth in holiness, since it is through your hands that all graces come to us from the most Sacred Heart of Jesus.
Allow me to praise you, O Sacred Virgin
Give me strength against your enemies
Amen

He gave his life in the service of God, the Church, his fellow Friars, and finally for the man who he did not even know in Auschwitz.

What ways are we called to “give up” or to “serve” in our lives?

He said that “The most deadly poison of our time is indifference” and as a teacher it is something I see in the lives of my students every day. But the thing that worries me more, is that I often see it in myself.

We should pray every day for a holy zeal to spread the word of God, to have a passion for Christ, His Church and the care of His children.

07
Aug

Misanthropy, Nihilism and Atheism

This week I had a student who wrote a speech on the above topics. He clearly articulated why he was a firm believer in all all three concepts.

My first reaction was general despair that someone could come to such a point, but I guess in a sense I was being naive. I am keen to discuss  misanthropy and nihilism on this post. There are many positive, happy, healthy Atheists that I have met, but is happiness even compatible or possible with misanthropy and nihilism?

Some info from Wikipedia…

Nihilism (from the Latin nihil, nothing) is the philosophical doctrine suggesting the negation of one or more meaningful aspects oflife. Most commonly, nihilism is presented in the form of existential nihilism which argues that life is without objective meaning, purpose, or intrinsic value. Moral nihilists assert that morality does not inherently exist, and that any established moral values are abstractly contrived.

Misanthropy is a generalized dislike, distrust, disgust, contempt and hatred of the human species, human nature, or society. A misanthrope is someone who holds those views and feelings. The word’s origin is from Greek words ????? (misos, “hatred”) and ???????? (anthr?pos, “man, human being”).

Both ideas are quite dangerous in their nature and their possible outcomes. Not only for the individual, but for society.

More information on nihilism can be found here on the Catholic Encyclopaedia.

An interesting dichotomy in our society is that on one hand it is all about the individual, getting ahead, earning money and finding happiness and morality in your own way (relativism); but on the other, we have never had such widespread education and a such a high standard of living. One seems to cancel out the other in a way.

Is this teenage angst? Or a potential mindset or philosophy that is going to spread like a virus?

Is it simply and “emo” phase that a lot of young people will grow out of? Or is it something that they are going to take into their adult lives and future families?

Are these modern ideas? Or have they been around since time immemorial?

And lastly, what are we, concerned Christians and Atheists, going to do about it?

31
Jul

Lord, open our eyes!

Today is the feast day of St Ignatius of Loyola, founder of the Society of Jesus, better known as the Jesuits. At present, I am reading a book called The Discernment of Spirits by Fr Timothy Gallagher OMV and am learning a heap about the principles of spiritual discernment, as taught by St Ignatius.

For most Catholics, the question “what is discernment of spirits?” will probably arise about now. Without proper context it could seem something akin the the occult, so opposed by the Catholic Church. It is, in fact, a process by which we can identify the spiritual movements of our hearts, and have better self knowledge and understanding of our spiritual life.

St Ignatius outlines a “threefold paradigm” to simplify the process. The steps are:

BE AWARE

UNDERSTAND

TAKE ACTION (ACCEPT/REJECT)

We make an effort to be aware, or to notice what is happening in our spiritual lives, and in reflection to understand them and try and recognise what is from God and his angels (the good spirit) and what is from the enemy or the devil (the bad spirit). Accordingly, we then take action in an effort to accept what is from god and reject what is not.

A brief story from the life of St Ignatius demonstrates this in a practical sense. It is the way by which he first came to understand the discernment of spirits.

Prior to this moment in his life, St Ignatius was primarily concerned with achieving fame and fortune through fighting in the army, and at  was badly injured and taken to Loyola to recover from his wounds. He was confined to his sick bed for a long time and as a result of his boredom, he asked for reading material. Since his own choice of reading, books about battles acts of chivalry, were not available, he was given a book on the life of Christ and the Saints. He probably rolled his eyes!

His time of rest and recovery seemed to consist of two things – reading the spiritual books and dreaming of imitating the lives of saints like St Francis of Assisi and giving up ALL for the Lord, and secondly, dreaming about a woman he knew and what he could do to woo and impress her, even though it was totally unrealistic because of class differences. So in essence, one was a sacred project (following the Lord) and one an earthly, worldly project (unrealistic, yet captivating, desires of the flesh).

From an account of his life:

Yet there was a difference. When he was thinking about the things of the world, he took much delight in them, but afterwards, when he was tired and put them aside, he found he was dry and discontented. But when he thought of going to Jerusalem, barefoot and eating nothing but herbs and undergoing all the rigors that he saw the saints had endured, not only was he consoled when he had these thoughts, but even after he put them aside, he remained content and happy.

So we see from his experience the two projects affected him in different ways – even though he was intensely passionate about both of them. Look at the words used to describe how he felt.

Eventually, he recognises these feelings and his biographer tells us that “his eyes were opened a little” by the grace of God. He was then able to take action and dedicate his life to the Lord as he knew he should.

How can we apply this method of “becoming aware” to our lives?

What will happen if we allow God to open our eyes a little?

What will happen if we don’t?

24
Jul

Vocations vs Vampires

In a conversation at my place of work this week we discussed religious identity, and while almost all of my colleagues flat out rejected institutional religion, most (about 6 out of 7) related a deep belief in the spiritual or supernatural. I think the case is that today people are after the spiritual, but not the “way of life”, but that is just my take on it.

One arena this stands out in is the Twilight phenomenon. I won’t go into it too much, but women of all ages and of many cultures have fallen in love with a story that has a very supernatural foundation. The same could be said of the Harry Potter obsession of a few years back.

I came across two articles today which, to me, show the very different paths we (in this case, women) can go down in the spiritual/supernatural life.

The first is about two young, amazing NZ women (one of whom I am privileged to know well) who are pursuing a counter-cultural, radical life for the love of the Lord.

Megan Fowler and Leonie Riddick are off to pursue vocations to the religious life and they are completely joyful in doing so. I imagine they will have struggles and many sacrifices to make, however, with the will of God comes great peace. Megan states…

I felt like something was pulling at my heart. I guess it’s like falling in love. I saw something in the sisters that resonated with me. I felt I would have a more fulfilled life if I gave up my current life. “I was dating a wonderful guy at the time but I felt my heart was being pulled towards a religious life and eventually the relationship came to an end.”

Leonie says…

“The logical part of me was saying, ‘What am I doing? I’m selling everything I own and moving to America to a community I’ve only spent days with!’ But I knew it was the right thing to do.”

Great stuff.

The second article I came across was on the Twilight books/movies and the obsession they can cause.

Check them out and let me know what you think.