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Author Archive for Filia Day

12
May

Over and Out….

Well after many years due to a change of circumstances, I’m throwing in the old beingfrank towel. So folks, this is my last post. It has been lovely chatting with you, sharing a laugh or two with you (or at you – don’t scoff, I’m sure you’re done the same to me), and disagreeing with you all at some point in our virtual relationship. All in all, it has been enjoyable. When I was asked to write on a weekly basis some 4ish years ago, I really didn’t quite understand what I was in for, and neither did I realize that it would become such an integral part of my life (even if my posts have been almost perpetually late for the last year!).

For me, ending my time at BF now is somewhat symbolic, as in the last four months or so I’ve learned so much about myself and the people around me, and while it has been a difficult time, I’m very aware that God uses everything for the good. I feel like I came to beingfrank with a few questions about my spiritual life, and indirectly found a more sure footing. Not really though anyone postings (ironically) but that just happened to be what happened to me over the course of the four years (you may have seen it come up in posts, you may not have), and in particular over the last four months. At the end of the day, after grabbling with the big questions it was the words and actions of a few people that won me over. And lastly if you were one of those people who I was able to rely on in that very special way, I thank you. You may not even know it but your understanding of what it means to be a friend has exceeded expectations, and taught me a lesson or two about what it means to be a friend. Ok, beginning to sound like an Oscars speech, so I will stop before you all vomit in your mouth just a little bit.

Oooooo just one last thing. If ever POB turns up on the blog again, make sure you tell him that I think his wife sounds pretty amazing. Real feminist, I’d say. And, POB, well what can I say. If you were a few years younger, and a little less fobby Samoan (and we weren’t both married), I’d be knocking at your door.

05
May

A little perspective please

The whole Osama Bin Laden affair intrigues me. As Inkling rightly pointed out yesterday, I think the issue raises some very poignant issues about the dignity of the human person. Details are gradually trickling out about the operation itself, the response of America citizens, and hindsight opinions on the role of torture in actually getting the information that led to Bin Laden’s demise. Personally, I found the images of Americans partying in the streets to be a little too similar to those images, post 9/11, of Pakistanis partying in the street. In fact, for some reason these images are slightly more sickening to me (check out the Mercatornet article below). Perhaps because I had tried to convince myself that the western world is actually the better man. Yeah right. I found myself agreeing with these two articles: the first from Mercatornet and the second the more liberal Salon.

My husband, who has been in New York for the last 9 months and obviously made a lot of New York contacts, described the morning he woke up and checked facebook. He described one after another status updates written in the same spirit – a type of jubilation motivated by hate. We were both appalled and bemused.

Perhaps one of the most “off” comments was made by the Peruvian President. He was quick to point out that it was no coinicidence that the Beatification of John Paul II and Bin Laden’s death occurred on the same day. He stated, his “first miracle has been to wipe off the face of this earth and demonic incarnation of crime, evil and hate”. I can imagine John Paul II rolling in his grave.

9/11 literally defined all of my adult years. I was in my first year of university when the towers crumbled. The subsequent years, I also witnessed and participated in countless discussions about how 9/11 changed the world, not to mention politics and world security. The joys of studying politics in such a politically unstable world. I’ve been to ground zero, and even though there remains only a massive hole in the ground (and some construction), it bought a tear or two to my eyes knowing exactly what had happened there – the 3000 lives lost, and all the others effected. I have a very good American friend who watched the towers crumble from Brooklyn bridge, and still, to this day gives a heart-rendering account of the few days that followed in New York. Yes, my experiences are limited and I am in no way claiming to know what America (and it’s citizens) have been through since but such a reaction is dehumanizing, not only to the person who was killed in retaliation, but also to those who are celebrating in the States at the moment.

Here are a couple more articles that I found very interesting on the whole affair. Enjoy (well as much as one can when reading a piece on torture)!
And another which depicts the movements of the president and the Navy Seal operation the day Bin Laden was found and killed.

And then on the other side of the spectrum, we’ve got Hawawira saying Bin Laden should be honoured. hmmmm….not exactly the approach I would have taken either.

28
Apr

Etiquette fit for the Queen but not the Lord

Just a quick post today. Everyone seems to have gone barmy with the up-and-coming royal wedding. Personally, I couldn’t care less. In my opinion, they’re just another couple of celebs, nothing really that special. Although, I’m interested in the dress but don’t tell, ok? In the view of staying up-to-date with current events, I watched a couple of short videos and read a couple of articles on the “wedding of the year”. I stumbled across an interesting article on the etiquette one should employ when dealing with the royals, particularly if you’re a royal subject.

Human speaking, we are very quick to talk about etiquette – what one should do when they meet the Queen, what one might wear if they were to go to the royal wedding but I find it surprising that many Catholics are rather shabby with their Mass/ Church etiquette.

I propose a number of reasons:
- They’ve never been told that Our Lord actually resides in the tabernacle of most Catholic Churches. This is a common one. I definitely wasn’t taught this in preparation for reception of the Blessed Sacrament for the first time and I had to wait a good 3 years before I stumbled across the truth.

-They’ve never been taught proper etiquette when entering a church. One non-judgmental observation I have made in the many years of attending Mass is that if a child goes to mass with their parents and their genuflection, let say, is rather sloppy, the child’s is worse (if they genuflect at all).

As a whole (humanly speaking) we have lost a sense of etiquette in day-to-day life as acts of charity to those around us. Out of love, of course, not out of an over zealous need for self-perfection and displays of social status. I suppose it make sense that if we don’t understand the concept of refinement in our dealings with others that we also don’t understand refinement when it comes to sacred things. And vise versa. It’s a perpetuating cycles really.

Another observation I have made, is that in a variety of churches in the central city region have not really adopted the bodily poses advocated in the new translation of the missal – beating of the chest at the Confiteor, bowing during the Creed, and an act of reverence directly before receiving communion.

This puzzles me. I did wonder if there might be a connection between the two things.

These aren’t the only examples and I’m sure we could all think of a few cringe worthy moments when Our Lord was ‘despised and rejected by men’ in the context of the Mass. It’s the cross all over (pun totally intended).

21
Apr

Reflection from the Pope (and what a Pope) for Holy Week

I think this is worth a post in and of itself. From Our Holy Father for this years Holy Week. Enjoy and Happy Easter everyone!

Dear brothers and sisters,
we have now reached the heart of Holy Week, the fulfillment of our Lenten journey. Tomorrow we enter the Paschal Triduum, the three holy days on which the Church commemorates the mystery of the passion, death and resurrection of Jesus the Son of God, having made ??man in obedience to the Father, becoming like us except sin (cf. Heb 4:15), has agreed to totally fulfill his will, to deal with our passion and love for the cross to make us partakers of his resurrection, so that in him and through him we can live forever, in the consolation and peace. I therefore urge you to accept this mystery of salvation, to participate intensively in the Easter Triduum, the fulcrum of the liturgical year and time of special grace for every Christian, I invite you to look in these days of recollection and prayer, so as to draw more deeply this source of grace. In this regard, in view of the upcoming holidays, every Christian is invited to celebrate the Sacrament of Reconciliation, a moment of special attachment to the death and resurrection of Christ, in order to participate more fruitfully in the Holy Easter.

Holy Thursday is the day which commemorates the institution of the Eucharist and the ministerial priesthood. In the morning, each diocesan community, gathered around the Bishop in the Cathedral Church celebrates the Chrism Mass, which is blessed with the sacred chrism, the oil of catechumens and the oil of the sick. Since the Easter Triduum and for the entire liturgical year, these oils are used for the Sacraments of Baptism, Confirmation, the priestly and episcopal ordination and the anointing of the sick, in what is revealed as the salvation, transmitted by the sacramental signs , who came from the Paschal Mystery of Christ, in fact, we are redeemed through His death and resurrection and, through the Sacraments, will draw from that same source of salvation. During the Chrism Mass, tomorrow is also the renewal of priestly vows. Throughout the world, every priest renews the commitments it has taken on the day of ordination, to be totally dedicated to Christ in the exercise of sacred ministry in the service of others. We support our priests with our prayers.
On the afternoon of Holy Thursday actually begins the Easter Triduum with the memory of the Last Supper, when Jesus instituted the memorial of his Pasch, fulfilling the Jewish Passover rite. According to tradition, every Jewish family, gathered at table on the feast of Easter, eating the roasted lamb, recalling the liberation of the Israelites from slavery in Egypt, so in the upper room, aware of his impending death, Jesus, the true Paschal Lamb, offers himself for our salvation (cf. 1 Cor 5:7). Saying the blessing over the bread and wine, he anticipates the sacrifice of the cross and expresses its intention to perpetuate its presence among the disciples, under the appearances of bread and wine, he makes himself present in a real way with his body and his blood shed. At the Last Supper, the Apostles are made ??ministers of this sacrament of salvation to them Jesus washes the feet (cf. Jn 13:1-25), inviting them to love one another as he loved them, giving their lives for them. Repeating this gesture in the Liturgy, we are called to testify effectively the love of our Redeemer.

On Holy Thursday, finally, ends with Eucharistic adoration, in memory of the Lord in the Garden of Gethsemane. Leaving the upper room, He withdrew to pray alone before the Father. In that moment of deep communion, the Gospels relate that Jesus experienced great anguish, suffering such as to make him sweat blood (cf. Mt 26,38). Aware of his imminent death on the cross, He felt a great anxiety and the proximity of death. In this situation, it is also an element of great importance for the whole Church. Jesus said to her: Stay here and keep watch, and this appeal to the supervisory concerns precisely this moment of anxiety, threat, where will the treacherous [traitor], but concerns the whole of Church history. It ‘a permanent message for all time, because the drowsiness of the disciples was not only the problem at hand, but the problem is the whole story. The question is what this sleepy, what would be the supervision to which the Lord invites us. I would say that drowsiness is the story of the disciples on a certain the insensitivity of the soul to the power of evil, the evil of insensitivity throughout the world. We do not want to leave too upset by these things, we want to forget: we think that it might not be so serious, and we forget. It is not only insensitive to the hurt, when we should watch for good, to fight for the power of good. It is insensitive to God: this is our very sleepy, and this insensitivity to the presence of God that makes us insensitive for evil. We do not hear God – disturb us – and so we do not hear, of course, the evil force and remain on the road to our comfort. The worship night of Holy Thursday, to be vigilant with the Lord, should be just the time for us to reflect on the sleepy disciples, the defenders of Jesus, the apostles, one of us, we do not see, do not want to see the full force of the evil, and we will not enter into his passion for good, for God’s presence in the world, for the love of neighbor and of God

Then the Lord began to pray. The three apostles – Peter, James, John – sleep, but sometimes I wake up and hear the chorus of this prayer the Lord: “Not my will but your be realized. ” What is this my will, what is this your will, which the Lord speaks? The mine will be “who should not die,” that he be spared this cup of suffering is the human will, human nature, and Christ feels, with full awareness of his being, life, the abyss of death, the fear of nothingness, this threat of suffering. And he more than us, that we have this natural aversion to death, this natural fear of death, yet most of us feel the abyss of evil. He feels, with the death, including all suffering humanity. He feels that this is the cup must drink, has to drink himself, to accept the evil in the world, everything is terrible, the aversion to God, all sin. And we can understand how Jesus, with his human spirit, and terrified face of this reality, which perceives in all its cruelty to my will would not drink the cup, but my will is subject to your will, the will of God , the will of the Father, who is also the true will of the Son. And so Jesus becomes, in this prayer, the natural aversion, the aversion against the glass, against his mission to die for us, his will becomes the will of God in nature, in a “yes” to God’s will Man itself is trying to oppose the will of God, that it intends to follow his own will, to be free only if it is standalone, opposes its independence against the heteronomy to follow the will of God This is all the drama of humanity. But in truth this is wrong and this autonomy to enter into God’s will is not an opposition to itself, is not a slave who rapes my will, but in truth and love has come, for good. And he pulls our will, which is opposed to God’s will, which seeks autonomy, we will pull this up at the will of God This is the drama of our redemption, Jesus pulls up our will , all of our aversion to the will of God and our aversion to death and sin, and unites with the will of the Father: “Not my will but your own . ” In this transformation of the “no” to “yes”, this will insert the creature in the will of the Father, He transforms and redeems humanity. It invites us to join in this movement: out of our “no” and enter “yes” to the Son. My will is there, but crucial is the will of the Father, because this is the truth and love.

Another element of this prayer seems important to me. The three witnesses have preserved – as it appears in the Bible – the Hebrew or Aramaic with which the Lord has spoken to the Father, called him “Abba, Father. But this formula, “Abba,” is a familiar form of the word father, a form that is used only in a family that has never been used against God Here we see Jesus as he speaks in the depths of your family, truly speaks as the Son with the Father. Let the mystery of the Trinity: the Son who speaks to the Father and redeems humanity.

Further observation. The Epistle to the Hebrews has given us a profound interpretation of this prayer of the Lord, in this drama of Gethsemane. This Epistle tells us that, the tears of Jesus, this prayer, this cry of Jesus, this anguish, this is not simply a concession to the weakness of the flesh, as it were. Just like that makes the job of High Priest, because the High Priest must bring the human being, with all his problems and sufferings of God at the Epistle to the Hebrews says, with all these cries, tears, sufferings, prayers, the Lord has brought our reality to God (cf. Heb 5.7 ff). It uses this Greek word ” prosferein , “which is the technical term for what to do for the High Priest offering to bring up his hands.

Just in this drama of Gethsemane, where it seems that God’s strength is no longer present, Jesus fulfills the function of the High Priest. It also says that in this act of obedience, that is, the shape of the natural human desire to the will of God is perfected as a priest. It uses a new technique to sort the word priest. Just like that really becomes the High Priest of humanity and thus opens the door to heaven and resurrection.
If you think about this drama of Gethsemane, we can also see the great contrast between Jesus in his distress, his suffering, in comparison with the great philosopher Socrates, who remains peaceful, with no disturbance before death. And this seems ideal. We can see this philosopher, but the mission of Jesus was different. His mission was not this total indifference and freedom, his mission was to bring him in all our suffering, all the human drama. And why this humiliation of Gethsemane is essential to the mission of the Man-God. He carries our grief, our poverty, and transforms it according to the will of God that opens the gates of heaven, open heaven: this tent of the Blessed Sacrament, which so far has closed the man against God, is open for this suffering and obedience. These observations on Holy Thursday, for our celebration on the night of Holy Thursday.

On Good Friday we will remember the passion and death of the Lord, worship the crucified Christ, sharing in his sufferings with penance and fasting. Turning “look on him whom they have pierced” (cf. Jn 19:37), we can draw from his pierced heart that pours out blood and water as a source, from that heart from which flows the love of God for every person receiving the his Spirit. Then we accompany Jesus on Good Friday we also going up Calvary, let us be guided by Him to the cross, we receive the offer of her slain body. Finally, on the night of Holy Saturday, we will celebrate the solemn Easter Vigil, in which we announced the resurrection of Christ, his definitive victory over death that challenges us to be in him new men. By participating in this holy Sleep, Night focus of the entire liturgical year, we will remember our baptism, in which we too have been buried with Christ and rise with Him to participate in the banquet of heaven (cf. Rev 19.7 – 9).

Dear friends, we tried to understand the mood in which Jesus lived the moment of extreme test, to grasp what that guide their actions. The criterion that has guided every one of Jesus throughout his life has been a strong desire to love the Father, being one with the Father, and to be faithful, and this decision to respond to his love led him to embrace, in any single factor, the Father’s plan, to do just the design of love entrusted to unite all things in him, to bring everything to him. In reviving the Holy Triduum, we dispose ourselves to welcome into our lives to God’s will, knowing that God’s will, even if it lasts, contrary to our intentions, we find our true good, the way of life. The Virgin Mother, guide us on this journey, and we obtain from her divine Son the grace to spend our lives for the love of Jesus, in the service of others.

14
Apr

More politics….

A few musings following on from last week post (kind of) and general observations over the years I’ve been blogging on beingfrank. Am I wrong in saying that here at beingfrank we tend to be a bit of an economically conservative crowd, by in large. I know there are a couple of you out there, who tend to swing more to the left on economic issues, but one has to admit the lefties tend to be a bit of an anomaly.

I do wonder if folks are happy to be called conservative because of their beliefs on moral issues too, particularly when really they sit more towards the left, economically speaking. I’ve also noticed that Christians (well the ones I know anyway) do actually tend to be more economically conservative. Obviously, this is a mere observation on my part (no rigorous study here) but I did wonder if there was any truth in such an observation and why this would occur. Perhaps people have ceded on their economic views because issues like abortion get in the way.

To tell you the truth, the mixture of conservatism and Christianity has always baffled me a bit. I’d admit, during my undergraduate years, I did dabble in conservatism for a little bit. The arguments of conservative political philosophers caught my eye for a while but I was always drawn back to my left roots. I think the main reason it didn’t quite gel was that it never captured my mind or my heart; low intervention states were always about letting the efficient market have its way and eventually the poor and vulnerable would see the fruits. For me, it always seemed a bit elusive; in our recent history we’ve never actually seen a low intervention state that hasn’t neglected it’s most vulnerable citizens. We have on the other hand seen many states thrive with higher intervention – some of the Scandinavian countries, for example. In other words, the reason that interventionalism has always made a bit of sense to me (and always seemed more in line with Christian thinking) is that it favours the common good and ensures that the most vulnerable do not just slip between the cracks, which the market so readily turns into crevasses.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m for a bit of intervention but I’m no socialist; I favour redistribution of wealth to iron out market deficiencies but I’m not in the business of socializing the means of production or anything.

There is, however, a fine line between ensuring a reasonable degree of equality and respecting citizen’s freedom. Where Christians should sit on the political spectrum, the Church has never stipulated (and for good reason) but personally I feel a tad more comfortable placing myself firmly on the left.

PS: Tapu Misa wrote a gem of an opinion piece on the topic of equality last week in the Herald.

Disclaimer – this discussion has nothing to do with moral issues, we’re talking pure economics here.

07
Apr

Just a little bit cheeky if you ask me…

A couple of weeks ago I was reading in the Herald an opinion piece that supported policies that helped mums / or dads stay at home with their under 2′s instead of putting the kiddies into daycare soon after they are born. The article brought to light strong evidence suggesting that it was better for children to be at home with either their mum or dad. Fair call, I thought.

As we all know, the labour party gave a good push to getting parents back out into the workforce quickly, subsidizing childcare while at the same time introducing paid parental leave (which is a bit of a joke at $400 a week for 14 weeks, I think). Some are lucky enough to get paid leave from their employer – I’m not sure of the exact percentage of people who receive such benefits is though (my hunch is that the numbers are relatively low).

National, on the other hand, has swiftly cut subsidies to childcare. From what it’s ministers are saying, it appears that this is their bid to encourage someone to stay at home while children are so young. Paula Bennett has recently called for more robust discussion on how the government might support parents but as yet nothing concrete has been done to substitute the cut to childcare subsidies.

My first gripe is that maybe they should have had this discussion before they cut subsidies to childcare – one of my friends was telling me about a study that shows that with the current food prices, a third of the children in NZ are likely to be malnourished making them more susceptible to diseases such as pneumonia, tuberculosis and other diseases best known to the third world. Malnourishment weakens immunity making children more susceptible to such diseases. The researcher, also a pediatrician at Starship, noted the increase of such cases in recent times (that she had personally seen). AND these figures were based on salaries of households before the GST rise. If families are already finding living so tight, I’m not sure we can ethically take away services without providing some sort of replacement.

Now before I get stones thrown at me for being a raving socialist, I’d just like to say that if we didn’t have such a blooming high tax rate, then maybe I wouldn’t be complaining about the provision of such services (or lack there of). I mean, isn’t that the whole point of a state that imposes a high tax rate to provide it’s citizens with the services it needs? (On a side note, if we had a low tax rate I would still be complaining but I would be complaining about the lack of an adequate safety net – another story, for another day, I think).

My point is that if we are going to have a high tax rate, then let’s at least put that money where it is needed most – into the family – and provide more choices for parents who would like to stay at home. Sure, a small minority of people can afford to have only one income coming in but for the vast majority of families, it’s a pipe dream to live on one income particularly when the average NZ income is around 40 something thousand.

In other news…

Dick Smith (yes, the man who has made his millions in electronics) has suddenly become an expert on families, arguing that Australia should have a two child policy. I think from now on I’ll be shopping at bond and bond thank you, Dick. That’s the irony of the reproductive rights debate; you have your rights, just as long as you do not want to have more children than 1 or 2. Disgusting.

31
Mar

There be Dragons

Just a quick note on a blockbuster movie that is soon to be released in NZ (perhaps May). I can’t find the exact date but There be Dragons tells of the life and message of a catholic saint very close to my heart and one that has changed the face of Catholicism with regard to the role of the laity, and their role in the church. I’m proud to say that I call St Josemaria Escriva a spiritual father; he is personally responsible for changing my life, the way I work, and my friendships and ultimately my relationship with the Lord. You can view the trailer here if you’re interested.